Congratulations, you made it! The work of the last three weeks has prepared the ground for an exciting adventure. Whether it helps to picture today as the departure lounge, checking in at the hotel, pitching your tent, or the final check that you locked the front door on the first morning of whatever it is you’ve chosen to change: you’re here. It’s today.
We’ve worked through the why, the what and the how. Now, almost in the words of an immortal advert: Just Flippin’ Do It. JFDI.
In a way, you’ve done the hard bit. Many journeys aren’t this well planned (and avoidable problems make them less fun), or are started for the wrong reasons (and end at the wrong destination), or have gaps in the itinerary (and hit the rocks). Yours has enough guy ropes pegged to the ground to make sure that you’re prepared for anything the elements out there throw at you. If stuff happens, you did your best to prepare.
Being prepared means you have earned the exclusive right to relax. I know this doesn’t necessarily mean that you will feel you can, but hear this: you deserve not to worry about things you have taken the time and the energy to consider.
If you’ve laid out your clothes the night before a job interview and your tights snag on the way there, you weren’t to blame and you get to choose whether you sprint to Boots on the way and risk being late, or simply style it out.
If you are present, kind and honest with the people you care about and they make out that you’re not being a good friend, maybe that’s something you can’t fix and need to let go.
Cultivating a mindset of grounded flexibility isn’t easy, but finding ways to gently remind yourself each day that you can’t control anything except your own direction and responses is a good place to start.
The next time you’re struggling to find your way or keep going someone will inevitably sag to you “just enjoy the journey”. You might want to punch them in the face. I definitely relate to that.
Next time this happens, ask yourself:
“Enjoying the journey” is really just a string of lived moments you’ve chosen to accept. Sometimes to accept something you just have to be open, but sometimes you have to work at it. The more you can do the former, the more of a zen ninja you are and you deserve a million high fives. When it’s the latter, just try to remember how great it’s going to be there once you arrive.
You deserve to have an amazing time, and more of that is available to you through your choices than you might think.
To revisit an old Self Curious favourite quote:
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do.
With your one wild and precious life?”
We’ll be back next week with a new theme for March and would love to hear your ideas – tell us what you need, want and would love to read.
Claire Eadington geeks out on workflow management, performance and wellbeing.
Claire writes a weekly blog, Self Curious, on NPW’s website.